Thursday, October 13, 2016

Success Is Not An Event But A Process

Add in that exceptional ingredient of your spirit – endurance or perseverance- and you are manifesting within the procedure for success to reach your objectives. If you prefer to learn how to be effective, the very first place to begin is to understand what true success is and what true success is not. To begin, you need to understand that success, exactly like poverty, is a mind-set.

Success, in financial provisions, is a typical kind of notion, not only in the US, but also all over the world. Many would say that it is a means to achieve a totally pleasurable state, but in all honesty, success could be very difficult to quantify, because it is a very personal thing- different from one person to another.

The journey of succeeding is not necessarily about money; money is merely the catalyst to experience your passion. Success requires time to observe where to begin. The truth is that you are exactly where you are in life for a reason, and perhaps for some choices that you have made. Ultimately, it is the way you deal with life on the way, in the process, that is mostly significant.

Everywhere in everyday living, the genuine question is not so much that which we gain, but that which we do, because whether we gain or lose is a reflection of what we do, first, and then how we do it.

If you are a human being, you are likely to earn mistake. If you fret about mistakes, you are making a fundamental error in thinking, because most often than not, mistakes are a pathway to success. They are also viable proofs that you are at the least trying, and not just lying dormant, waiting for rainy days before you start gathering your seeds together to sow. As a matter of fact, in every triumph there’s a great deal of trying. Therefore, mistake is not failure!

Many men and women think failure is final or the close of the world. Read More.

Sunday, September 18, 2016

Self-Esteem and Love

You're in love, but not satisfied. You can't see it since it isn't important when you're in love. Well funnily enough it's about love. Love is quite a bit deeper than a crush. 

Self-image may be a considerable element in a woman's desire for intimacy. People experiencing low self-esteem have a tendency to have chaotic and conflicted relationships. There are a number of other ways low self-esteem affects relationships, but none are positive. People with minimal self-esteem have a very low estimation of their inherent worth. You could have asked yourself the best way to develop confidence and I will advise you to enhance your self-esteem. 
Self-esteem is a rather crucial component within a wholesome relationship. A higher self-esteem ought to be gained by being able to navigate positively toward all parts of life instead of just one. With a great deal of self-esteem, your confidence and capacity to manage situations well will develop. 

The Benefits of Self-Esteem and Love

Given here are a few of the signals of insecurity in relationships that needs to be managed immediately. If this relationship isn't giving you total satisfaction, utmost happiness, and overall joy, it's time to proceed. Thus, a high-quality relationship and a satisfying relationship could be the trick to a satisfying sex life. To the point at which, you might begin to question a relationship. When a relationship reaches its mature stages, that's after about two decades of being with exactly the same person, both people in it begin to realize each other properly. Even an extraordinary relationship takes a specific quantity of work as you're in it. There are a large variety of approaches geared toward building a loving, lasting relationship. 

Abandonment issues are hard to cope with. It's likely that not all your problems can be handled easily or quickly since they might involve others. It is a serious problem whenever your partner does not supply you with the respect you have earned. Often too little respect comes out of a misunderstanding of the word. Where there's no respect for someone and their feelings, there is absolutely no love. Neither can you love somebody you truly do not trust. It holds the secret to all of your troubles. Putting off responsibilities does not make them vanish, instead it causes them to pile up and begin to occupy space and gather weight. When you put off issues for later date, they might become harder to solve. The longer you wait, the harder it might get to resolve. 

While you shouldn't blame yourself for this circumstance, you ought to be aware that change has to be a two way street. Perhaps it turned out to be a weak moment, perhaps it was true love. Your feelings might become too intense the more you consider the other individual. Should you not have a good awareness of self, you cannot share it with a different individual. But when you do, it's going to be a whole lot less painful to express your desires and feelings with the other; and it would also place your mind at rest. 

Every youngster should feel distinctive and special and unconditionally lovable. A selfish person is only going to take care of their own happiness. Each person is trustworthy for their lives. The individual with whom you're in a relationship is the one which you ought to be focusing on and sharing the facts of your day-to-day grind, not the person that you are secretly admiring. Conversely, if you're with somebody who loves the sections of you which you love in yourself in addition to the sections of you which you don't love so much, you are going to have much healthier and happier relationship.(Both men and women can on occasion feel very insecure about their partners.)

The Undeniable Truth About Self-Esteem...
Self-Esteem: Pros and Cons

Thursday, September 15, 2016

The Undeniable Truth About Self Esteem That Nobody Is Sharing With You

Self esteem is a rather crucial component within a wholesome relationship. A higher self esteem ought to be gained by being able navigate positively toward all parts of life instead of just one. With a great deal of self esteem your confidence and capacity to manage situations well will develop. 

Do You Know That… 
  • The way one values themselves as a man or woman is vital in someone's beliefs, and the way they feel day to day. In such a condition when someone is not able to bear with their own, it is unwise to expect much better living with someone else. 
  • A person might be more secure in a relationship when he or she is not requiring constant affection to verify that he or she is loved. 
  • On the opposite end of the spectrum, a man or woman dealing with low self-esteem may get withdrawn and isolated from the critical men and women in their existence. 
  • Someone with a very low self-esteem often also has minimal self-worth. It is, therefore, crucial that the individual with minimum self-esteem gets some help in constructing their confidence back up. 
People in healthy relationships take pleasure out of their romantic relationships. Emotionally healthy men and women generally have positive relationships. Lots of people in difficult relationships are tolerating mistreatment as a consequence of a deficiency of self respect, which is caused by their lack of maximum or ample self esteem. 

Successful interpersonal relationships that matter require a sense of self worth and ample dose of self esteem.

Next week Friday I will be discussing at length on Understanding Self-Esteem and Love!
Also read Self-Esteem: Pros and Cons

Friday, April 19, 2013

BE POSITIVE: You Must Speak It Out

"Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers."~Ephesians 4:29
I am an avid facebook user. I'm very active on it. Living far away from home and family, and being alone where I am, I try as much as possible to keep in touch and facebook comes very handy. It helps me connect with family, old friends and even new ones. So whenever I'm not using my phone to make calls or texts, I use facebook to catch up with loved ones. This is the beauty of technology, the beauty of computer intelligence. It gives a great feel of outstanding experience!

Being an active facebook user, I have read some amazing posts that have blessed my heart so greatly. I have some friends on this social media whose timelines I visit each day to glean some encouraging words from their posts. If facebook timelines can track the accounts of visitors, some of these people will get lots of hits and majority of them will be from me. I am a sucker for awesome posts!

Verse 29a Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth:- In the above verse, Paul, talking about speech, says that we should be very careful with what comes out of our mouths. Words are potent! If you have nothing good to say, you may say nothing at all. Evil or corrupt communication cripples faith, it breaks hearts and kills hope. It messes up relationships and destroys lives. Therefore, unless your words have the potential to positively influence, please keep them to yourself and do not add to the mishaps bad words have caused to the lives of many. Think before you talk. Speak wisely!

Knowing what to say and the time and place to say it requires discipline. It is not one of the things that come natural to people. It cannot be inherited genetically. It requires hard work, consistency and discipline.

A question to ponder: If a friend talks to you the way you talk to yourself daily, will you still be friends with them?

Verse 29b
But that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers:- Meanwhile, if you have something good to say, you must speak it out! Do not keep it in, do not keep it to yourself, because someone probably needs to hear it. You must speak it out, let it encourage someone, please speak it out, let it revive cripple faiths; you must speak it out, let it restore dead hopes, please speak it out, let it mend broken hearts. You must speak it out, so it can destroy the effect of evil words in the lives of many. Please speak it out and let it minister grace to its hearers.

Instead of speaking evil words and destroying the lives of those around you or even your own life, why not decide today to start speaking positive words. You can never have a good day if you always have a bad attitude every morning. Likewise, your words have a great influence on your life, unless you stop speaking negative things to yourself daily, you can never live a positive life much less have a fulfilled one. Think before you talk, speak wisely.

Sunday, April 14, 2013

You Will Never Go Astray

Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.”~(Psalms: 119:105)

The decisions you made yesterday, whether consciously or otherwise, have greatly influenced what you are experiencing today, also the decisions you make today will have an effect on the outcome of your tomorrow and future. In life there will be lots of decisions to make and many actions to take. Your life and future depends heavily on the decisions you make and the actions you take, whether directly or indirectly. No one can escape that.

Many factors determine our decisions in life. We make decisions based on gain, pleasure, pressure or coercion. But whether we choose to make decisions based on our feelings, on God's word or on any other reason, we must not forget that these decisions will determine our actions and in turn affect the outcome of our experiences tomorrow and ultimately our future.

The story of Samson and Delilah is a very popular one. Growing up as a Christian, in my children Sunday School class, we had a series on the notable stories of the Bible. Almost every year, we were told the story of Samson. Apart from his strength, we learned that he was arrogant and he made some pretty bad decisions.

Now Samson went down to Timnah, and saw a woman in Timnah of the daughters of the Philistines. So he went up and told his father and mother, saying, "I have seen a woman in Timnah of the daughters of the Philistines; now therefore, get her for me as a wife." Then his father and mother said to him, "Is there no woman among the daughters of your brethren, or among all my people, that you must go and get a wife from the uncircumcised Philistines?" And Samson said to his father, "Get her for me, for she pleases me well.(Judges 4:1-3)

Samson was a strong man but his decisions were not in accordance with God's (Word) command. He made wrong decisions in his life, especially in marriage relationships. He got married to the daughter of the Philistines, enemies of Israel. In which he was later betrayed. As if that was not enough, he entered into another relationship with Delilah and this was the relationship that cost him his life. He was captured, after making another wrong decision of telling Delilah the source of his strength. He was blinded and made a laughingstock. Eventually he died in his prime. Conclusion: his life was cut short because of the decisions he made based on his feelings rather than on God's Word. 

The story of Samson, just like other Bible stories, was written for us to read and learn from it, so we know to make the right decisions, based on God's Word and not our feelings. If Samson could make such bad decisions in his life, we are not exempted. We also can make similar mistakes or even ones that are more serious that his.

So before you start judging him, think about all the wrong decisions you have made and the wrong lanes you have turned into in the journey of life, and ask yourself this: Am I better than Samson? The fact is that you could be much better than him, if you will learn from his mistakes and apply the lesson learned to your life. Feelings are like spoiled children: the more you indulge them the more they will control you. You should not suppress your feelings or deny them, but you must not indulge them either. Do not let them lead you.

The Word of God is the written heart of God. You have to learn to trust in it. When you do this you will be holding unto His hand and walking side by side with Him as He leads you to your desired end. 

Let the Word of God rule your life, let it lead you. Make the Word of God your consultant, that which you can confide in to help you make every decision of your life. Let His Word be your light and make sure you walk in that light. Simply trust God's Word and not your feelings. Rather than let your feelings ruin you, let God's Word rule you. If you do this, you will never be misled, much less, go astray.